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  1. Girish M says:

    February 11, 2009 at 12:24 am

    This is an excellent blog post. I particularly liked the statement “sometimes, the prophet may be more effective than God”. Many people think communication is more important than the message itself (“Its not what you say, but how you say”), which is seems misguided. Lack of effective communication skills by a thinker is not a limitation. One person cannot have all the skills – but different people with complementary skills need to work together to create a chain of success – both God and the Prophet each played an important and unique role here.

  2. Ravi sankar says:

    April 5, 2009 at 8:53 am

    Hi kalyan
    I couldn’t understand much. You mean to say people who don’t network/connected much can’t influence.
    Can you tell me more about the following statement “influencing your being, by helping you dive into who you are”

  3. Kalyan K. Banerjee says:

    April 14, 2009 at 3:15 am

    Dear Ravi,

    Such programs can be broadly called ‘self leadership’. The essential concept runs thus:

    When we complain about the world, we usually expect the world to change. But that does not happen. What is more practical is to look inside ourselves and see how our relationship with the world can change.

    For example, we may conclude someone is insensitive or uncooperative or unethical, and feel bitter about it. Instead we have the option to look into ourselves and see what we can do about it. To begin with, we can ask: why are we complaining? Is it because we have lost out on something? We need to make honest response to such queries if we have to find a solution. Finally, we may choose one of many ways to deal with that person:
    1. ignore him
    2. forgive him
    3. try and interact more with him so as to understand him
    4. have no-agenda interactions with him, so I can get to see his perspective.
    5. see why we do not agree on issues, and how I can change my perspective, or be open to his perspective
    6. share my discomfort with him, openly
    or a combination of above.

    This approach is powerful as we are retaining the onus of change. So we are the actor rather than observer. Even if we do not act, we do not complain any more as we know we have chosen not to act.

    When I say dive into who you are, I mean you get to know more about yourself through a process of self inquiry.

  4. Ravi sankar says:

    May 2, 2009 at 12:32 am

    Thanks kalyan for the clarification.

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